MaoBah

A friend of mine went out on a date with a guy who has been courting her for a few weeks now. When she got back from the date, I asked how it went. She started complaining about a lot of things and told me she didn’t want to go out with him again. Well, here are some of the very common mistakes that both sexes have when going on dates.

For men:

Splashing on excessive amounts of cologne. This is just not that necessary unless you’re trying to disguise the smell of a skunk. Dabbing or spritzing yourself with cologne once or twice would be enough. Your date doesn’t have to smell you a mile away to know you exist.

Wearing globs of hair gel. According to an article in the Internet, the wet look just isn’t in right now. If you’re not confident about how your hair looks, go get a haircut.

Yammering on about ex-girlfriends. One thing my friend complained about during her date. Why in the world would you think WE women would want to hear about your past relationships and your exes? Do you know how annoying that is? When you’re with us and you want to talk about girls, you talk about us and think about us; NOT your exes.

Suggesting they want an open relationship. Umm.. Let me get this straight. You asked us out and now you tell us you want an open relationship? How insulting can you be..

For women:

Getting lazy about love. Sometimes women can be such procrastinators and some can be pretty much laid back. They just sit there in their homes or hang out with their girlfriends somewhere and they expect to find love in an instant. Whatever happened to effort? Try getting to know people of the opposite sex and be more outgoing. Ask friends if they know anyone they can hook you up with. Go to various events and try online dating.

Giving off the wrong dating signals. Women should give off the right signals and use body language to show interest. For example, if you’re at a bar, stand next to the single man you find attractive and smile at him. At the same time, don’t overdo it. Make sure you’re smiling and not staring!

Listening to words before actions.  Pay close attention to how your date acts versus what he says. The language of behavior says it all!

Sticking with cyber-communication. After getting comfortable with someone online, get past the initial stage of dating and lay off the gadgets a bit! Make time to hang out in person to really get to know someone — not just the persona he presents online or on the phone.