#1: They go on too many unproductive dates. “If you know how to date, and you’re meeting losers, get off the market and go into dating detox. Clean your energy up so those people don’t ask you out anymore. The problem is we women are very impatient. We want it now. Instant gratification! Sometimes the best single men are worth waiting for. You might get one good date a year, versus 100 bad ones, but he’s worth it.”
#2: They go out with their girlfriends in the hopes of meeting guys. “When you’re with your girlfriends, you’re not approachable. They’re scared. Single men are very timid. I have this theory: Women who travel in packs do not attract. Men who are quality aren’t going to go in there and ask you out while your girlfriends are standing right there — he could get shot down. So it’s a really good idea, at about 4 or 4:30 P.M., to go to the bar: Sit at the bar, have a drink, get an hors d’oeuvre, read a mutual-gender book like “The Da Vinci Code,” know the score on TV, and pretend you’re busy. You’re reading a book, you’re
eating an hors d’oeuvre, you’re meeting a friend — and then you’re more approachable because you’re by yourself.”
#3: They think a guy will always like them if he just gets to know them. “A guy knows right away if he’s attracted to you or not. There’s no warming up. Men are microwaves, women are Crockpots. Women heat up very slowly. They take in information; they decipher it and download it into their computer. Men know in one second, yes or no.”
#4: They overshare on the date. “Single women are so trusting that they tell too much information about themselves. They pump and dump — they baggage dump! They say, “I’m all relaxed, now he’s my best friend and I can tell him whatever I want.” They’re nervous, and they tell their life story — and sometimes their life story is not a good story to tell.”
#5: They don’t let the guy talk enough. “The way you talk on a date should be like a tennis match, but the guy should talk three times as often. It should be 3:1. He volleys, volleys, volleys, now you talk. You can answer the question every time he volleys, but then you lead him with your question, and it should be topical to the conversation he’s having. You don’t say, ‘Hey, do you want to get married? Hey, what’s your ex-girlfriend like?’ You don’t do that. You lead with what he’s talking about.”
#6: They forget their manners. “The key to a good date is to smile. Engage with eye contact. Let him lead and then you compliment little things along the way. If he orders the dessert and you guys share it, say, ‘Oh, this is the best chocolate mousse, I’m so glad you picked this.’ Manners are key. Most people do not have manners.”
